Texts for Loved Ones Enduring Stillbirth

It’s hard to know what to say to someone who has lost a child. However, saying nothing can be worse than unintentionally saying the wrong thing. Here are a few jumping off points to get you started in supporting your loved one through the death of their child.

• I am so sorry for your loss.
• I know there is nothing I can do or say to make the pain go away.
• It is so unfair your baby died. I can only imagine what it must feel like.
• I would like to porch drop off dinner/coffee/breakfast/snacks/etc. this week. Would X day or Y day work best?
• I would like to take your dogs for a walk. Would X day or Y day work best? If you’re not up for chatting, you could leave them in the backyard with their leashes, and I’ll bring them back there.
• I saw ____, and it made me think of your baby.
• Don’t feel pressured to respond, but I just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and your baby today.
• I don’t really know what to say, but just know I am thinking of you.

** Don’t forget to also text the dad and ask how they are doing. They often are asked how the mother is doing, and their grief is overlooked.